You are your own everything because, whatever good or bad thing happens to you, it is depends on how you choose to react to the situation. You are your own HERO. You are your own happiness. You are your own sadness. You are your own strength. You are your own weakness. You are your own motivator. You are your own friend, enemy, love, etc.
But that doesn't mean you don't need other people. People need other people. That's why Allah created Hawa for Adam in the Jannah eventhough Jannah is so perfect and Adam can wish for anything he wants. You can have other people to support you, to give advices to you. But then again, it all will back to the basic, YOU YOURSELF. Doesn't matter how others love you, care about you, treat you good or bad, you need to control yourself on how to response to all those things.
You are your own problem, but you are also your own hero. When you have problem, you need to be a hero and try to fix yourself first in order to settle the problem because the problem comes within yourself. According to Charles R Swindoll, life is only 10% of what happens to you and another 90% of how you react to it. Your attitude is the key to success.
When something bad happened to you, don't ever think that Allah is unfair because according to Surah Al-Baqarah 2:286 "Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity." So, if Allah knows you are strong enough to handle the trouble, why did you feel you are so weak and can't handle it? Have faith in Him is the key to your heart.
Plus, if you be patient with all the trial or the test, you will earn rewards from Him. In Surah Al-Baqarah 2:155 "Be sure We shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil); but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere".
Allah can makes everything so perfect if He wants to, means that, you can have a life without any difficulties, but then, without any test from Him, how can you learn to be brave and strong, right? What is the purpose of your life? If life is so easy, Allah will not create this Dunya. Allah will just let you live in Jannah. Because this Dunya isn't Jannah, that is why it is full of hardship.
When you've been through a difficulty, it is a good time for you to ponder, how good is your relationship with Him? Maybe you have gone so far from Him and He tests you as a reminder to return to Him. Or maybe the test is the kafarah for your sins from the past. Whatever it is, if you try so hard to go through it and struggle through it, insyaAllah, it can strengthen your Iman.
Allah has a plan for you and for everyone. No one is forgotten. Allah did not left you behind and everyone face different difficulties but how you manage to control yourself through it makes you different from others. He tests you means He loves you. He's giving you a chance to make things right instead of having to suffer in the Akhirah. Trial means a chance to repentance. So you should be grateful everytime He tests you. =)
Bear in mind, if your problem is big, other people's problem may be bigger but you didn't know. Because when they have problem, they didn't go whining about it all over the internet, but instead they try to be silent, stay calm and try to strengthen their relations with Allah.
Actually, this past few weeks had been so tough for me since many bad things did happened. I got a warning letter, I didn't do well in my mid-terms and presentations, my lecturer scolded me in front of class, I didn't manage to add any final year subjects during pre-reg, my memory card corrupted and I lost everything that I saved including my assignments and blabla many other bad stuffs.
Yeah, so hard. I felt down. I felt sad. I felt like giving up. I felt like wanna quit studying laws. I hate myself. But hating myself does not change anything if I didn't try to change my attitude. Me myself is my own problem. Sigh.
You should never hate yourself when something bad happen to you. Instead of trying to blame yourself because of your carelessness, or your bad luck, it is better for you to calm yourself down and think of any positive reasons. Sometimes, when you feel down, you always think that there is no way that you can be happy again but Allah always helps you out.
I realized that I should never hate myself. In order to love other people, you need to love yourself first. If you hate yourself, how can you spread the love to other people? Most importantly, you need to love the Creator of yourself. Be grateful to Allah that you're still alive. Then, you will feel the need to love yourself. Hatred is not good for our heart. Keep calm and spread the love. ♥